We’ve all heard the trite phrase “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence;” and most of us know that this kind of thinking can cause curiosity and temptation. When the grass in our own backyard is brown and crispy, and our situation is bleak and depleted, it can feel oh so tempting to hop the fence and graze in the greener pastures over yonder.
When it comes to love and long term relationships, the amount of watering required to keep the grass green can feel overwhelming and not realistic. It’s a lot of work! And sometimes, the grass has been neglected so long that it IS dead and it’s not coming back.
It breaks my heart to see this because I believe that it’s not for lack of willingness to do the work, rather a lack of knowledge or understanding about just what needs to be done to maintain a nourished, rich environment.
The truth is, just a little goes a long way and daily maintenance can keep our relationships from falling in disrepair.
We all have relationships and fall in love but we aren’t taught HOW to be in relationship. It’s the one thing we do in life without any training or education and expect it to be wonderful and easy. Then, we wonder why it’s so hard and why relationships end.
Keeping love alive for the long term is all about learning exactly WHAT to do. If you are struggling to get along, to communicate with each other, to resolve problems or to have a fulfilling sex life but there is love…, then everything else is “figureoutable.”
Take the time to learn HOW to be in relationship with each other and to learn WHAT needs to be done to have your Hot, Healthy & Happily Ever After.
The grass is greener where you water it.