Break-ups

Why Taking A Break From Dating Is A Bad Idea

Women take breaks from dating for a LOT of reasons. I’ve head reasons like it is exhausting, time consuming, confusing and distracting from life. Especially once you get into “mini” relationships that last 1-2 months, getting to know somebody better, and you start to let your walls down and then it doesn’t work out. Women become …

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Non-Committal Relationships Cause Pain and Heartache

If you’ve ever been in an on-and-off relationship, you know how excruciating it can be. It’s the ultimate non-committal state of being with someone: When you are together it’s great! So you are IN.  But Then Things Go South… He decides to end it because he has ‘issues’ keeping him from being all in with …

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Getting Over A Breakup

Getting Over A Breakup | My Big Breakup Story! When we think of breakups, rarely do we think… GIFT! But nearly ALL the time, once you get past the initial shock, pain or heartbreak, it actually IS the best thing that could have ever happened to you. I believe very strongly that no one should …

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5 Steps to Getting Over a Breakup

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Going through a breakup is one of the most difficult experiences we can have. Heartache, grief, and confusion, mixed with feelings of powerlessness or even betrayal, can bring out the crazies in all of us. It can be hard to focus and function, making daily life overwhelming.

If you are going through a breakup, my heart goes out to you. I’ve been through it and I know how overwhelming it feels.

Here are my five top tips for moving on…

1. Cease ALL Contact

One of the biggest mistakes people make is fooling themselves into believing they can still be friends with their ex—right away. It may be possible down the road, but in order to get over someone, it’s best not to see them, speak to them, or know anything of them for a long time. You can’t simply switch off your romantic feelings toward someone and view them in a platonic or neutral way overnight.

Continuing to stay in contact prolongs pain by allowing you to be hopeful. And having hope for reconciliation keeps you stuck in the transition and won’t allow you to get past the pain. Zero contact means the obvious: no texting, talking, or getting together. But it also includes the covert: voyeurism and cyber-stalking, positioning yourself to “bump into” your ex by hanging out in places they go, communicating with his/her friends, or fabricating reasons to see each other, such as returning a toothbrush…

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